Generally speaking, though, Americans have an inability to relax into sheer pleasure. Ours is an entertainment-seeking nation, but not necessarily a pleasure-seeking one. Americans spend billions to keep themselves amused with everything from porn, to theme parks to wars, but that’s not exactly the same thing as quiet enjoyment. Americans work harder and longer and more stressful hours than anyone in the world today. But as Luca Spaghetti pointed out, we seem to like it. Alarming statistics back this observation up, showing that many Americans feel more happy and fulfilled in their offices than they do in their own homes. Of course, we all inevitably work too hard, then we get burned out and have to spend the whole weekend in our pajamas, eating cereal straight out of the box and staring at the TV in a mild coma(which is the opposite of working, yes, but not exactly the same thing as pleasure). Americans don’t really know how to do nothing. This is the cause of the great sad American stereotype — the over-stressed executive who goes on vacation, but cannot relax. ~Elizabeth Gilbert
Why is it so hard to be happy? Do you know how to create and find true happiness?
Most people are miserable and unhappy… and they usually don’t do anything to find a solution for their unhappiness. Most unhappy people hope that they will be happy someday — they will be happy when they find their ideal soul mate… they will be happy when they finish school and start their dream career… they will be happy when they land their perfect job… they will be happy when they make a lot of money… and so on.
Most people don’t know how to be happy. They don’t know how to find true happiness that lasts.
Why are so many people miserable and unhappy?
The truth is that most people just don’t know how to be happy. They don’t know how to savor simple pleasures in everyday life. They don’t know how to find true happiness that lasts.
Most people know how to entertain and amuse themselves — they know how to have fun… they know how to go to parties… they know how to go to the best shows — but, they don’t know how to be happy.
Most people know how to achieve their career goals and succeed — they know how to move up the corporate ladder… they know how to build a successful business… they know how to achieve incredible things in their careers — they expect and hope to find happiness *after* they achieve their financial and career goals, but they usually still end up being miserable.
Most people know how to create wealth, but they don’t know how to create happiness. Most people know how to have fun on dates, but they don’t know how to be happy in their relationships.
Sadly, you can learn almost anything at school — except how to be happy.
Most parents teach their children valuable skills in life, but they usually don’t teach their children how to be happy. Quite often, the reason is that they can not teach what they do not know.
Why is happiness such an elusive concept for most people?
Happiness is not something that we can pursue directly — it’s usually the by-product of doing things we love to do.
Most happy people are passionate about various things — they are happy when they are doing the work they love… they are happy when they are spending time with their family and friends… they are happy when they’re enjoying art or music… they are happy when they’re walking in the park… they are happy when they’re dancing or just reading quietly.
Most happy people find happiness just by enjoying the process of living — by being and doing the things they love — they follow their bliss wherever it leads them.